There's a lot of talk these days about various doctrinal and theological issues, but something I feel is horribly under-discussed is the issue of modesty.
Webster defines "Modesty" as being decent, good, wholesome,
and "observing the proprieties of dress and behavior". As a young Christian woman living in a very sexually-saturated world, modesty to me isn't just an issue of applying the Biblical principle of keeping my Christian brothers from stumbling upon the site of me, but also so that I can honor and respect my future husband by guarding my heart and my body and keeping myself pure.
Now, all of this said, have I always been successful in doing this?
NO!!!
In fact, it causes me great shame to think of the way I have, in the past, presented myself through action, speech, and dress. Despite God's constant conviction on my heart, and my suppressed desire to attract attention from the opposite gender no matter what it took, it took my (AWESOME!!) mother to pull me aside and lovingly correct my ways.
My mom sat me down on her bed one afternoon and told me a few things:
- You are my beautiful daughter who I love
- You are God's beautiful daughter whom He loves, and created with love
- You are dishonoring God's creation by dishonoring your temple, your body, through revealing too much of it (through the display of cleavage, etc.)
- You are better than that!! And God wants more for you!
My mom also shared the following scriptures with me, which had a real and lasting impact on me:
1 Peter 2:12 - "Be careful to live properly among your unbelieving neighbors. Then even if they accuse you of doing wrong, they will see your honorable behavior, and they will give honor to God when he judges the world."1 Timothy 2:9 - "And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes."
and
1 Peter 3:3-4 - "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."This was such an awesome talk my Mom and I had! It completely turned me around, and I prayed that God would forgive my disobedience and guide me in His ways to what I should wear, say, and act like so that I could live to the fullest, and honor Him to the fullest.
It's been a long journey, and will continue to be, but God (and awesome women like my Mom!) are teaching me so much about myself and about Him and what He wants for my life, my heart, and my purity. :)
If you've been struggling with this too, please share with me your journey to purity and modesty! If you have a specific set of guidelines you follow, I'd love to know them, and why you follow those particular guidelines.
I've got a few sources that my fellow Sisters-in-Christ might be interested in taking a look at, and if you have any to share, I'd love to read them!
Christa Taylor - Modern, fashionable, MODEST clothes! I love this one!
Modbe Clothing - More great, modest fashions. Some really pretty tops and sweater options here.
ModestThreadz - This company offers a TON of options, including camisoles and other items for layering.
God bless, ladies!